Focus on mediation and get the best deal I can? Hang in longer and make her do all the work for a D?
Appreciate any and all feedback.
Yes and yes. Especially the second part. My advice is to, until and unless YOU are ready to D, make the WAS do all of the dirty, legwork for the D. In fact, I prescribe to the "do nothing related to the D that you are not legally obligated to do". What does that mean? It means unless ordered to by the court, do not do anything. That doesn't mean to stand in the way, i just means not to actively help it along. Here is an example:
WAW: "I need document A for the divorce filing. Can you find it and send it to me?" LBH: "Understand you need this, however, I am really busy and can't take the time for this. However, you are welcome to stop by anytime convenient for you to find the document."
(Obviously this is an example of couples that are S'd, but the principle still applies.)
What we typically see is that the WAW rarely will follow through in these request. WASs are notoriously lazy when it comes to the D itself. This is why in a majority of sitches the LBS is the one that finally gets to the point where they are tired of waiting and files for D.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
