I can see your sitch turned round relatively quickly. Do you recall any behaviours from your W, that in hindsight led you to believe there was a chance at MR 2.0. The reason i ask, is that in DR book Michelle asks for me to notate DB techniques i'm employing and to record what impact they are having, which i find to be in conflict of changing things just for myself. How do you maintain detachment and yet seemingly have to engage enough in W behaviour to take note or be aware of potential thoughts/actions from W of R. Or is it simply that we are becoming so attuned to our situations that sub-consciously we are doing it anyway?!
I don't know about anyone else, but i come on here to update myself on everyones sitch, i don't feel i can offer any wise words yet but my support for everyone here is true. I find it cathartic in a way, knowing that we are all feeling the same, we want to better ourselves and we want to be the best people we can be.
Had a small interaction with PIL(first since BD) whilst dropping off kids for the day (last day of Christmas Holidays). In the back of my mind i am thinking they have erased me from their lives, as mentioned in above post, consequently i was painfully aware of my outward demeanor and that i appeared aloof as opposed to being positive, happy. I was annoyed with myself. I guess i need to remember this for the next time!
