Hi FS. Sounds like this is a conversation that needs to happen even if it is unwanted at this point. My first thought was... “if this was me writing this, what would FS advise?” I think you probably know the answer to that question. You would say something very similar to what Yail already so eloquently wrote. We just don’t know what the future holds. All we can do is live in the here and now and make decisions with the information we have. Honestly...this might be a bit of a wake up call for your H. You’ve BOTH been living in a kind of limbo and he’s taken full advantage. He would have to give that up and I can’t help but think that is going to be very difficult for him and he may have to think about some things he has been avoiding thinking about. Regardless...you have to do what is right for you. Don’t worry too much about your girls. They will adapt. Kids are more resilient than we think. And don’t assume this will be a negative experience. Having your own place that H doesn’t feel like is also his, may be a really good move for you. Difficult, for sure, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t do it. (((HUGS)))
