He disappeared for roughly 12 hours yesterday. His D was with her mom for the weekend. Mine was with me part of the day, but then off with her best friend. He was completely dark on social media which is not like him at all. I went from distraught, to livid, to calm but never contacted him. I could see him popping on and off FB so I knew he wasn’t dead or injured. My friend came to get me. Forced me out if the house so I wouldn’t sit in this. Or wait for him. I got home after bar close and he was home. Car hood was cool. He didn’t hear me come in and was in the bathroom. He had to work at 4am today. He came out and nearly had a heart attack. With a couple drinks in me I just laughed, said good night and went to bed. The genuine shock in his face after that was priceless. I’m stuck with wondering if I should pick the boundary fight since he agreed specifically to not disappearing for hours, with the consideration that the last time I brought it up the conversation immediately became a conversation about how controlling and nit picky I am, or do I let it be and refuse to acknowledge his ridiculous adolescent boundary pushing? I don’t know that I want him to have the satisfaction of knowing it got under my skin or give him another opportunity to use how controlling I am. But then am I a doormat?
