wow, he does not sound fun to live with...Have you both discussed doing something new together? You could take it in turns proposing something and the other person has to go along once without complaining (I know he's prone to complaining :)) What did you used to do together before you had kids? I am so proud of you for your new habit of being assertive. Piecing (if that's what you are doing) sounds HARD. I hope you can both warm things up between you x
PS I have read back through all my old threads (and banging my head at how little I listened to anyone) and I really appreciate you being there for me during such a tough time, it made such a difference having you posting kindly on my threads. Thank you