I really feel for you guys with the talkers. I know there are probably parts of it that feel good and validating, but in the end it is just words. In my view, when the words and the heart-felt emotion come easily, give them less credence. Mine has no words. Only the words of others. Annoying, but helpful in remaining detached. I think actions in your situation mean more than most. Mine does a lot of action/inaction to show his attachment, so I tend to look more for the missing words.
A word of caution, you are still very early days here. Even if it is an awakening, I don't think it is "the" awakening. Mine had a first awakening with his divorce filing and moving in with OW2 (about 2 years after move-out), but back he went as predicted. I think he is entering the awakening stage now (40 months), but who knows. If you google first awakening midlife crisis, you should find an excellent article that explains this and what is likely causing it, and what you can expect.
