So, he moved out this morming. We argued a bit about our finances and our 3 month trial living together and I ultimatley said, its time for him to move out, I can't support him anymore. He wanted to stay to be best friends and coparents and I wanted to eventually get back together. So, I pulled the plug. I will keep the house.
I think that was the right thing to do. I am looking for reassurance...
If you are really done, then it was. If you still want to get back together, then probably not.
Did you really want him to move out, or did you just tell him that hoping he'd change his mind? Manipulation attempts almost always backfire.
Understand that 3 months is a small amount of time in these sitches. Patrice Lack of patience is usually what ends up hurting you in DBing. We typically encourage posters to come here for feedback before making a decision on these kinds of things.
Ànother thing that happens is that LBSs that are IHS think physical separation would be easier. Those that are in physical separation think it would be easier to show their changes if they still lived together. It is a conundrum.
West, the thing is that most LBS are in pain, so they think they can do things that will eliminate the pain. It hardly ever a good thing to react trying to avoid pain. You will have regrets.
I say all this not to make you feel bad, but to warn you that you'll likely regret this decision. But it is done, so just start DBing hard. Come here for feedback before making big decisions. GAL, keep improving, and keep working to detach.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
