Hi FS, you sound like you're doing ok, I'm sorry you missed Prague but it's not going anywhere. I wish you luck in your job hunt. Sounds like you need to have a conversation with your H about the house stuff. The kids will adapt to whatever you need to do I think, they are old enough to understand your job situation. Maybe you could even consult with them about what they would prefer if you have to sell the house so they feel like they have a say? My ds1 is off to uni next year and I am pondering moving if it's just me and ds2, but our house is pretty modest and anything else would not be much cheaper, it has plenty of positives to it including a lot of people I know nearby. I will have to stay put I think until ds2 has finished GCSEs and then I can think about it. Houses are complicated, there is history and the hopes and dreams you put into it, so I understand your wish to stay put if possible, but there are also new possibilities. Change is hard, but we have certainly had it imposed upon us haven't we?
These situations with limbo are weird beyond belief sometimes, how do we even start to explain? Sometimes strangers ask me if I'm married and I stare at them, not knowing what to say. I'm sure eventually we will reach some sort of resolution, whether it's R or a new R with someone else, but the limbo feels like it lasts FOREVER. It won't. We are both marvellous human beings who are leading rich full lives, sometimes when people ask if I'm married I want to say 'I am not defined by my relationship with a man, or with anyone else'.
I wish we could arrange to meet up sometime, that would be cool
