Questions from a LBS 5 months in

[peacetoday]

I believe the MLCer knows the hurt they caused...but they also have ways of dulling reality and forgetting the pain they inflicted

they run, they go in denial, they use alcohol and substances, they use affairs and sex, they us drugs, spending
there are many ways to drown out their pain and that is why you see him running

Remember the crises is not your fault or about you
yes the M may have been good and bad..

they are usually running from previous trauma from childhood..things never resolved
although they lived with it for most of their life

In my opinion, it comes up in midlife and causes this reflection on their lives and the crises
most will never realize this and project their pain on you and the M

but saying and knowing this, cant help them..they cant see it and will think you are crazy if you say it
keep it to yourself..but know its not you