That is really good advice, thank you for being direct. No more R talks, understood. I don't feel ready to file, so unless she reaches out to move forward with it I will just remain patient.
I need advice on another situation that has happened recently. I made plans to go out of town for the Holidays and did not inform my wife about them. She found out through information on social media and confronted me about it. She was upset I left without telling her, and her reason was our dog. I mentioned we have no children together, but we do have a dog. It's a dog I brought into the marriage, so I assume it will be coming out of the marriage with me as well. I made perfectly fine arrangements for the dog to be taken care of, but she said she should have been the one to take care of it. I just told her that we are separated and I do not have plans of remaining friends, so from that point of view why would I tell her my plans or ask her to take of the dog. She said because we are still married and made a point to tell me that the house is still part hers as well even though she isn't living there right now. She does continue to contribute the expenses of our home.
The next part of the story is I frequently travel for work, I will be out of town soon and due to how we met we have many common contacts when it comes to my work. She would for sure know I was traveling once I left, and maybe even before. So in that same last conversation I keep referring to (it was a long one) I did tell her I would be out of town and that she could take care of the dog. Looking for critiques on how this was handled and how it should be handled in the future as it will continue to come up. Thank you!
