I wanted to add one more thing about that last conversation we had. We did start to discuss the divorce in more detail, basically how we would split up our assets. This was prompted by me as I told her I can't continue to stay married knowing that she is in another relationship. I did see that this conversation upset her.
It also led into the alternative to divorce, her giving up that relationship and moving back home. We talked about how hard that would be for her as essentially she felt like she would have to intentionally put herself into an uncomfortable situation and be un-happy without knowing if her feelings would turn around. She says she doesn't know if she still has any fight left in her to go through that, and also commented how she would have to earn back my trust. Many roadblocks to her moving back home that as of now it seems like she is leaning more towards the side of not wanting to go through that.
No more talk. Action. Stop discussing divorce, getting back together. #1 rule is DBing: no R talks. If she starts one, listen and validate.
When you are ready, file for D. When will you know even you're ready, you'll know.
As far as what she wants, we have a saying around here. When she wants to come back, you will know. When she doesn't, you will be confused.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018
