Hello. I know it's been awhile since I last posted. Here's an update:
WH is still having an EA. Things have improved over the course of months and around Christmas time I saw quite of bit of warmth and affection from him. I don't know what prompted him to be kind and friendly, but I was cautiously enjoying it.
Last Monday, everything turned for the worse. He apparently got mad at me because I didn't say that he could buy a tool he wanted. Honestly, I was distracted at the moment and didn't hear him ask. He took my silence as me saying no. A few days later I told him that I never said no, he put those words into my mouth.
Currently he is avoiding me and when we are together he is trying to cause a fight. I know better and I don't engage. I ignore and show my happy side.
His feelings were hurt today because he felt like he was being ignored and his help not wanted or appreciate by the group we were with. I had nothing to do with it, since it was other people treating him that way, but somehow it's my fault.
How do you deal with someone who is always negative, down on themselves and take your validation as not needed or seen as condescending?
Tomorrow marks 1 year from BD. As I reflect back, I'm proud of how far I have come! To think that at the beginning I was considering suicide and with the Lord's help, I got out of that very dark place. The Lord has helped me enormously!
I have a very long road ahead of me still. I'm thinking that this affair won't end without the OW ending it first. I will continue to improve myself and enjoy MY life.
