Thank you for these words of support, peace. I can imagine in the future I will be proud of myself if I can overall maintain patience, kindness, and compassion for H, even as I distance from him.
Job, thank you for pointing me to HaWho's threads. I've been reading them and thinking about the similarities and differences. My H hasn't proposed any activities together since BD or shown any kind of affection, but I think it's in his personality to block out all old life and focus on new life/new friends in order to do make that compartmentalizing easier, and in order to move forward with his decision. He did offer me a piece of candy, which, considering how much we used to enjoy buying/eating candy together, is the kind of tiny positive gesture I note from time to time—that, or initiating some small convo with me. I wish there was more, but that would probably only make detaching harder on my end.
