Battling Forward Part2

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DV bragging about all her texts lol! We aren't all pros ya know?

I love what Mach posted on love being giving. It really is, and it reminds of spiritual teachings, not that he intended that. I am an inherently selfish person so those words resonated with me. Mach's questions take me back to me football playing/coaching days and my time in boot camp. You must have a PMA. Always! If you focus on things out of your control, you are not gaining ground towards the things you can control. My attitude change away from this mindset is why I got BD'd. Point blank, that is it. Never again....

I love that we have some of the old brass gathering round in your thread too. Thanks to Mario and Mach for dropping in.

My first IC/MC was giving me advice that was contrary to DB, as was my second IC. I found one I really like now. She doesn't know DB by trade, few do. I've been with this one over a year now and she can relate to DB.

I do think that MWD has the right approach with her 8 & 16 hour intensives. How much of your story can you convey in 1 hour per week? Your IC may have some great advice too though. What is he or she saying that is anti DB? DB means doing what works you know...

Core, I see you stressing over time and how you lament having no control other than filing for D. This is how your W felt for a long time I imagine: torn between her vows and her current desire to want to leave and live a "better" life. You need no imagination to see that she was and your are in this position where the promise to your spouse and your desire to be happy are at odds.

MWD advocates a bit of snooping to see what needs he/she is meeting for your spouse. I think you know now, so consider no more snooping.

Good luck...