Believe nothing they say and only half of what they do.

Detach. It means don't let his words or actions affect your moods, thoughts, actions.

Right now you are in WAS (walkaway spouse) analysis mode. This may sound curt, but it is a waste of time. Don't do it.

The sooner you focus on you the sooner this ship starts turning.

Believe him when he says he wants out of the marriage. I did not initiate an ILY (I love you) for over a year and half. I still am somewhat reticent.

Don't try to talk him back into the MR. Most LBS's talk their way out of the marriage after the BD (I certainly tried). Learn from their mistakes.

Be calculated in your decisions. Think and act, don't feel and react. If you aren't sure, delay and get advice here.

Last edited by ovrrnbw; 01/04/20 05:17 PM.
H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.