Do you also split the mortgage/rent and all household bills 50/50? Do you have kids? I really don't think my H undestands the financial impacts of what he is doing. Conisdering there were no bad thigns in our marriage, just poor communication patterns and I had a high level of stress for a while... I also asked, periodically to do marriage counselling, couples retreats and other ways to connect together, most of which he declined.
And we still get along are still attracted to each other. He wasn't getting his emotional needs met - I get that. We also had a baby and a business and bought and renovated a house in 3 years. Everything is just settling out now... and he wants to pull the plug.
I think he's having an early MLC. He's 34. And immigrated here from Europe 4 years ago.
How is your H handling the financial split?
Me 41 H 34 Son 3.5 Married almost 4 years West Coast of Canada