Questions from a LBS 5 months in

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How old is your H?

My XH would come over a lot in the beginning and have a lot of those nice behaviors
He would seek me out in the house to talk
He was already living with other woman and I was not sure there was another Woman

Looking back , I think he still loved me and was trying to come to his terms on ending the M / leaving for the new relationship
He was 40...prime time for MLC
He bpught a motorcycle, bought younger looking clothes..the OW was 28, dyed his hair and eyebrows

He did 2-3 therapy sessions..but he was checked out
he was classic MLCer

Problem is it takes a long time 2-7 years and longer

Many of us thought we could think our way into a quick fix...some H will turn around, maybe after time
after the OW affair burns out, if it does..

MY XH Married her, divorced her and I think they are still together
They hate eac hother,
she has texted me on occasion sharing her unhappiness and wanting to send him back
Her family has contacted me with the same information

He was a sober man no alcohol during M...OW was a drug addict and he became addicted to prescriptions and alcohol

Many MLCers will go down a destructive path
You have to watch for this

They will spend ALL the money, take saved money, steal from the home...

If your first attorney was not good, seek another

My experience was different and My divorce L was given to me by a friend who validated his integrity and knowledge
He was an excellent L, kind and very smart
He helped me enormously save my assets because my xh was trying to put us in debt and almost did

Be smart...watch your credit cards and all accounts
move quickly
Your H already has his plan in mind
you wont be able to stop him