Yes I have gotten some good feedback and much appreciated.
I am definitely keeping the ring on. I caused some confusion with the ring affecting GAL. I think I meant affecting detachment as the ring is a constant reminder. However, the ring shows my commitment and what I am fighting for, so its on.
I do have an IC and the W knows this. W knows I am committed and changing, but as you say, is skeptical that they will last.
The trip is happening. I am looking at it the same way as you say. An opportunity to show change and have a good time. As far as detachment level...getting better, but I have to be honest in that I am still far from that. Getting better with no expectations. Still trying to grasp wanting someone/something and having no expectations and no pursuit.
We got into a R talk the other day, initiated by her regarding an event. I did say some things as I kind of had to, but mostly listened and validated. Overall, I was prepared and saw no negative effects.
Any R talk we have always end up with the idea that W thinks I can't change to her liking long term. All I can do is change what I think I need to and see what happens.
She needs to change also, but obviously cannot go there anytime soon.
