Divorce because I betrayed her trust - PART 6

[DaB35]

It seems your W is pretty determined to see this through so there's not a lot you can do to prevent that. If what they are asking isn't a huge inconvenience then just go ahead and take care of it.

I agree. I'll just do the simple stuff where I can or have access to that information.

It's OK to have sad thoughts, it's normal. Just keep doing what you're doing and remember that you don't know what the future holds. Somewhere down the line she may very well want to recon. Hope is yours for as long as you want it.

That is a really nice way of looking at the situation - thanks. I will keep hope, but also continue to GAL for myself as I have been doing.

One of Michele's peers refers to it as being like ju jitsu. In ju jitsu you "fight" by going along with your partner's moves. If they move you don't counter-move, you move along with them and use their own movement to leverage your position. This is exactly what DB'ing is all about.

Great interpretation here AS. I feel I have been DBing well, especially more recently. I'll keep at it!

Yes you have grown and recovered and are building yourself into someone stronger and more self-sufficient. She needs to do the same but she hasn't even begun yet.

Thanks, that means a lot. Self-sufficient is right. Certainly not being as 'timid' as I used to be. And she absolutely hasn't begun. She just thinks havign a few chats with her sister and friends will solve everything. She hasn't done much sorting out I don't think; definitely not DBing to the extent I have been. She will see the stronger improved me, and I will be very happy to be that person naturally without 'faking it' for her benefit only. It's for my benefit primarily.