Writing on forums is something I have never done before nor ever thought I would be comfortable doing. I am so thankful and overcome with emotions that there are people like yourselves out there that take their time to help others who feel hopeless and blindsided.
How do I know for sure if it is MLC? Truthfully at this point does the label really matter?
I’m doing my best to detach but fully realize I am still too focused on what he is doing. It has DEFINITELY improved from where I was a short 2 months ago. I have almost fully stopped snooping and have stopped obsessing over where he is and with whom.
One of H behaviours that is beyond confusing to me is he hides his aggressive/angry side quite well. We have never been fighters or arguers which is also part of the problem of him feeling like he’s never had a voice I guess. I don’t understand why one day he hides in the basement and will say but 2 words to me then the next day offer me dinner, tea and make “normal” conversation. I’ve read a lot on here about “cake-eating”. Is that what this is? Should I be getting up and removing myself from the common space? Tonight for example, he’s been home for over 3 hours and has asked if I wanted a tea but has not approached the S/D conversation again...is this because I walked away last night without agreeing to it? I simply turned off the light and removed myself from the situation cause it was sooo late.
