Hi everyone, This is my revised thread, my original one had too much identifying info in it, I’ll summarize my sitch, but first want to say I’m so grateful for the help of Sandi, Job, Litb, May, Unchien, AS and others who posted on my original, your advice has been invaluable. I’m a W married to H and we have kids, recently we made a major move that didn’t work out. H was very angry and disappointed that we had to return. H is also unhappy about life in general at the moment. I, as the W, have become the target for a lot of the unhappiness and for the move failing. But, the decision to return was in the best interest of our kids. H has “threatened” to go back within a certain time frame if he still isn’t happy. But for now we are all together. Litb and Sandi really helped me to see how I have contributed to some of the conflict in the MR and I have to own that. Over last few weeks I have listened and validated H when he has spoken, kept calm, not taken his bait and gotten on with taking care of myself and the kids. Validation is a great tool. So that’s it in a nutshell, I will continue to post updates Thanks
