Proceed with caution, but if you feel it is best to proceed please do. We can't read the details in your sitch, and I truly truly hope this is a new type of R for you and your W.
I do have two thoughts that I hope don't rain on your parade. I'm not trying to be negative, but a realistic outsider.
1) WW has stated that OW has become pushy and it wasn't working. She also states she knows she wants a future with you. Really listen carefully to her reasoning, and determine if it is enough for you. Does she want to be with you because it wasn't working with OW, or because she wants YOU as a life partner with all of your glory and faults.
I hope it is the latter. But I want you to try to read between the lines here and really get as much information as you can while you move forward.
2) Request (require) that she get tested before intimacy. This is one way you can put your foot down and demand some respect from her. Prove you are taking care of YOURSELF with this requirement.
Lastly, you ask her to fight for you. That's a good request, but it also might not be realistic. Coming out of an affair sometimes people don't have "fight" in them. But demand respect and transparency in all things. Slow and growing committment might be more powerful than "fight". It's easy to make a big demonstrative showing of affection. It's harder to show slow growing true love and respect. The flashy fun stuff can come later, when you're fully a unit again.
