Being treated "poorly" is subjective. And it allows one to become a 'victim' ...
What exactly are you afraid of Core ?
Good points. What I'm afraid of is S1 learning that this is ok for a woman to do. For D4 to learn to treat others this way. For the marriage to end and the kids to go through turmoil. I'm afraid my plans to retire will be greatly delayed due to the financial impact. Im afraid to move to an unsafe neighborhood with poor schools as I can't afford any better while paying daycare, child support and alimony. I'm afraid of missing half their childhoods and of studies that show single parents have much less quality time with their kids. Thats all the tip of the iceberg.
And all fair points...
How much of that can YOU control ??
How much of that can you change ??
What if you can't change any of it ??
What happens if you can't control the outcome of this ??
Who are you left with, if things don't turn out the way you want them to ??
