Shall I do this? Or forward it on to W and inform her? Or just go back to the L and tell them "ask W"?
Thing is, she won't have a clue where to look in the house for any of the paperwork. I have left what I can on a desk in the study though - should I let her know that?
It seems your W is pretty determined to see this through so there's not a lot you can do to prevent that. If what they are asking isn't a huge inconvenience then just go ahead and take care of it.
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Been thinking about things I could strive to achieve in 2020. Certainly got a few personal goals like increasing my weight limits at the gym, writing some more, earn more money from gigs, pass at least 2 exams etc. I certainly will be kept busy that's for sure!
I'm sad that W won't see me achieve these things, but I'm sure she will get to hear about them.
It's OK to have sad thoughts, it's normal. Just keep doing what you're doing and remember that you don't know what the future holds. Somewhere down the line she may very well want to recon. Hope is yours for as long as you want it.
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On reflection, I really fought for my M. I still want to.
And you are. One of Michele's peers refers to it as being like ju jitsu. In ju jitsu you "fight" by going along with your partner's moves. If they move you don't counter-move, you move along with them and use their own movement to leverage your position. This is exactly what DB'ing is all about.
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I went to IC, and have done the work required. W is still in the hardened heart phase and is keeping distant. I know she is feeling stressed, especially about getting a place of her own. I can't help her though - this is what she wanted so she has to make do.
Yes you have grown and recovered and are building yourself into someone stronger and more self-sufficient. She needs to do the same but she hasn't even begun yet.
