Hi all,

Came home from a weekend fishing trip to a wifeless home. No warning just 4 sentences on a note left on the counter - "I moved out to an apartment. I don't hate you. This was long overdue. I will call the boys to tell them. Sorry"

She was struggling with our youngest going away to college all summer. She would't talk with me about it. She has always bottled negative emotions our during our relationship. Our sons stay with me in the family home when on school breaks. She is distant with them and won't talk to them about it either. I've been giving her space as requested after a few missteps the first month. No EA or PA that I am aware of at this time. Main alienater or supporter is her sister who left her husband in Hawaii 1.5 years ago. There is a family history of running from problems - mother and 2 sisters have done it. Everyone who knows her is shocked. Has recently spent money on Botox injections plus a lot of other uncharacteristic behavior. She will attend mass with us (we are Catholic) and go to family dinner afterward and act as though everything is fine. Typically tells others that we weren't getting along so we separated. No D talk yet but I fear its coming so I have consulted a lawyer but don't plan on doing anything but reacting.

I am thinking MLC but not sure or if it really matters. My sons and I are devastated. I am currently standing

Taz


M59 (53@BD)
XW56 (50@BD)
S26 (20@BD) S24 (19@BD)
Married 25 (22@BD) Together 28
BD 9/29/19 (moved out unannounced while I was on fishing trip)
W filed 10/19/20 (Informed me via text)
D final 11/10/22