I'm 5m since BD and 3m DB from my WAW. I'm going through almost the exact same feelings as yourself. I am still providing for her/us and she hates me. Crazy tough. I want to be with this woman ? I still react to her and battle these questions daily. Watching her going out and having fun without me...I question why fight ? Well I still believe there is a chance for us and the kids. In the process and the hardest part is GAL myself. She is out for herself right now and I need to get out for myself. Everything is so against my nature, but I am looking at this as the biggest challenge of my life. However, also realizing much is out of my control.
She has a HUGE guard up and flat told me she was done back at BD, but I will be stronger in the end if I fight for this. She feels things will go back once I am content. I just keep making lasting changes (not 100% sure what she wants anyways) and she will have to decide at some point.
Good luck friend I will keep following and maybe help each other.
Greenman, I'm following your sitch as well and am hoping for the best for you and the family. GAL can mean many things which don't always mean going out if your more introverted. I got the same exact thing..."I think you'll just change back"...I see this now as gaslighting and maybe projection.
Originally Posted by Mario
Core,
Hope you are doing well. It sounds like you've had a roller coaster the last couple of days. to me it's a natural cycle. You hate being in limbo, want to do something, the only thing that can really do is file for the D yourself, but you don't want it. Then you start to get angry with your W because of what they did and how they justified it, then feel sad.
it can be exhausting. Take care of yourself man.
Mario you nailed it. I'm going through that rollercoaster about once per month at this point. In regards to the exhaustion tou mentioned, its quite true and kills some GAL activities I try. I've taken quite a few naps when I could've GAL and stayed in with S1 for NYE instead of going out. How long did the rollercoaster last for you? Did you have young kids in your sitch forcing you and W to stay together during the whole sitch?
Last edited by Core; 01/03/2005:16 PM.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
