If I did this or that? would it make a difference probably not-
some things may help you: being patient, kind and compassionate living your life gal, being upbeat and fun may when appropriate.. being mysterious ect, making a new life friends activities, staying busy and being available at times when it appears he is doing the leading...when he wants to engage and letting go of him finding support, grieving and healing
We do these to adjust to our new normal and we can watch from a distance to see where our H land You will get clues and you watch his actions
and it is definitely harder to live with them
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