greenman you've already got some good feedback here. I am a firm believer in the LBS wearing their ring,no matter what the WAS does, since they are still married. You mention it hinders GAL? How? GAL is not going out and meeting girls. It is staying busy. sandi and others are clear that you should avoid the bar scene at all costs. You know what is worse than R problems with a spouse? R problems with a spouse AND an OP.
As far as detachment, we all struggle with it. Every ounce of our fiber says pursue. Pressure. We think pursuit is how you "win" someone. We hate limbo and therefore pressure to get the WAS to make a choice. You are doing the right things here, and are on your way to detachment. Just remember, do not react to her words and deeds. That is true detachment. It isn't that her anger and criticism won't hurt. It isn't that her going out as a party girl, or having an EA r PA won't bother you. It is that no matter what she says or does you remain even. You remain upbeat. You remain fulfilled, You remain outwardly happy. Pleased.
As far as the trip. If you can get mostly detached, then I would say go. That might be contrary to DBing, but I see it as an opportunity to show her the new you.
I see no mention of IC. WASs are notoriously suspicious of the LBS' changes. IC is not only a way to cement your changes, but to show your WAS that you are serious about your changes. I'd seriously consider getting into IC if you are not already.
M(53), W(54),D(19) M-23, T-25 Bomb Drop - Dec.23, 2017 Ring and Piecing since March 2018