You're in an awful situation. Here are a couple of suggestions that you can take or leave:
-- can you pretend to yourself he isn't coming home, so there is no expectation and might help relieve the anxiety of wondering? Just assume he isn't and try not to care or worry about it.
-- are you able to 100% focus on the kids in the time before they go to bed? Find extra fun things to do together that you can plan and just enjoy them?
-- what things can you do for yourself after the kids go to bed that can distract you from wondering if he is coming home or not?
I have also been veeeeeery unproductive at work. Today was the first day in awhile that I had enough meetings and activities to keep me pretty busy and it felt good. Doubling down there might also be a way to keep your mind off of H.
Hang in there!
May22, thank you so much for this advice. I am going to try doing these things because they do sound helpful. I will report back on my progress. You hang in there.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9 BD - 11/2019 Married 14 years; Together 20 years
