H has a HD and my drive has been pretty low due to what I realize now was chronic fatigue due to depression and resentment for him not helping enough with the kids and chores. (Once or twice a week was not enough for him). If we were in a SSM, how do I address that in 180ing? I guess I cannot if I am detaching and if this is one of his main problems in the marriage, detaching may hurt more than help because I am obviously not giving him any physical attention (with the exception of the time he initiated weeks after the BD)?

Last edited by HesAble; 01/03/20 12:45 AM.
H and Me - Both 45; S13 and D9
BD - 11/2019
Married 14 years; Together 20 years