TKO ~ Your last 2 posts had completely different tones. Look at the first paragraphs - your W slid back to her old self, and then she is back to normal.

I think you recognize that she is going through a lot and her feelings may be fluctuating by the hour. I sense that you are building up some R hope, and just want to caution you to make sure that doesn't manifest as R pressure when you interact with your W.

Originally Posted by TKO
Without going into detail we had a good chat and we were both open although I tried hard to talk less than her. I think I did ok. I just reiterated that right now it's most important that she does the work on herself to heal. If that opens up the door for us to get our family back together than we will deal with that then. I told her it was great to see that she's aware of all of this and is trying to put herself back together as a lot of people would continue the self-sabotage.

Being there for her is good. I suggest you restrain telling her directly about the possible impact on your MR. It is extra pressure at a time she is obviously trying to sort a lot out. She knows you are there, just by the fact she is coming to you to talk about things from time to time.

Have you heard of the "feeding a squirrel" analogy?