After 2-3 weeks of things looking positive, the last 2-3 weeks I feel have been a regression back to the way she was a few months ago: more distant with me and our son, picking fights, not in touch with reality, etc.
This is exactly why we call it the roller coaster. She'll have highs and she'll have lows. All you can do is let her ride the ups and downs while you remain off to the side, as unaffected as possible. The rock and lighthouse.
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For example when I mentioned that I have been patient and stood by her and helped her family out as needed (mostly her mom as she became a widow in March) she just said: "don't hold that against me forever, I didn't ask you to do any of that".
Why are you mentioning these things to her? ACTIONS not WORDS. And when we say actions, we mean exactly that. Not "perform actions and then tell her about them later for brownie points". Just perform the actions, period. Do them with no expectations.
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I just don't understand her fluctuating emotions - I hold onto the fact that she's depressed our dealing with another mental issue but maybe that's me looking for an answer?
We all want to know "why" and none of us ever find out. Your W doesn't even know why, so how will you ever know? You won't!
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I'm starting to understand why removing yourself from the situation and detaching is so critical - their emotions are all over the place.
^^^YUP!^^^
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Anyways - it appears as though she has zero interest in me or our marriage despite her feeling better about things 4 weeks ago. Was it a bluff? Trying to rope me in? Trying to avoid paying for lawyers?
No it was probably real, but the problem is it was just a reflection of her feelings at that moment in time. Her feelings will be moving and changing constantly for quite some time yet.
