Job, thank you for the response. I've read it a few times now and find it to be highly insightful. I dont know how you and some of the others can pull so much detail out of a situation which I cant see myself and I'm living in it. Quite a skill!
As I suspected, W basically seems to be ignoring our latest chat or pretending it didnt happen. We never continued the chat which was going to happen yesterday which is probably a good thing per DB rules. Back to limbo we go. It wouldnt be as bad if she had an ounce of respect or if I knew if OM was out of the picture.
As an example, she mentioned how we dont talk anymore, so I tested to see what would happen if I started conversations about thing she likes and something else I'm passionate about. During one chat, she grabbed her phone and started texting. In the other she had nothing to say when I finished my story and walked away to watch tv without a word. This type of thing has happened a lot the last 1-2 years. Is this a normal WAS symptom? Wonder if I've a covert narc on my hands or if shes just lazy, rude or being passive aggressive. Thing is, other than me, she only treats two others like this, her brother and sister who are mostly out of the picture and whom she holds resentment for (for things that are minor to most people).
I see my questions here show Im still not detached and still searching for answers. Part of it is me wondering if I need to file first and get this over with for me and the kids. What if D4 learns and picks up on this behavior and thinks its ok to act this way toward me. I'd be crushed if my kids emulate W.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
