Hi ReadytoChange - thank you for this advice. I dont think I was able to get to a place to just listen, even though I heard his pain a number of times - I will still so hurt that I often still reacted and didn't give him space to talk through it all. While we both have sat through our anger a number of times and mostly have allowed each other to talk... I still feel I could have done a lot better to have him feel truly heard.

My question now is, do I bring it up so that I can hear him - or do I let him come back to me?


Me 41
H 34
Son 3.5
Married almost 4 years
West Coast of Canada