That’s really sad coconut. He’s feeling pulled in a lot of directions. I can’t imagine the stress. Would it be easier for him to spend time with you that’s not on a holiday? Why does it have to be a holiday anyway? Time is time and love is love so as long as there’s time throughout the year - that you guys connect that’s what’s important. What’s also important is that he’s not made to feel like he has to choose. Being the bigger person that gives him that permission - to not have to choose since that’s a huge stress for him- is a very powerful act of unconditional love. All kids (even adult kids) deserve that.
