Newlywed and in crisis

[funbun]

Hello Alison,

As for helping around the house. The word 'helping' is a little odd. You live there. You eat meals and make laundry and dirty the floors just as anyone else does. Doing a fair share in the house - not as a way of nicing her back to you, or getting her to be impressed with you - but just because you are an adult and you live there - is a no-brainer. You looking after your share of domestic work doesn't need to have anything to do with your marriage. You're not doing her a favour, you're not sulking and refusing to do domestic work to punish her. You're just acting like all attractive, appealing men do - (right?) - independently doing your share of the house hold tasks.

Thank you for this perspective. You are right. I should do my own fair share of the housework. I think being sad and hurt tend to make people resentful and 'rebel' as to make things harder for other people. I don't think that is right. I should pull my own weight but not do anything extra or try to hard..?

What other steps do you have in place for your mental well being? What are your GAL plans? Do you have a male friend outside of the situation - not a friend of hers, not a member of your family or hers - that you can confide in?

I go to the gym two times a week and try to build a support system around me. At the moment, I have a male close friend that I confide in. My family is also available. I bought a Nintendo Switch recently and playing games helped a lot in taking my mind of things lol.