Yes, unchien is correct in the examples here (they're really good). S
he will try to make it sound like this is your fault and that YOU are the reason healing can't occur. Notice that about each of the examples: they're written as if the writer just wants to get back together (but they definitely aren't saying that. No statements that anything will change, and no apologies), and at the same time implying or stating that it's your fault.
Pause and read between the lines of everything she writes. Pause and consider how it makes you feel. Sad? Fearful? Hurt? Hopeful? Like you just want to respond and correct her? This is the power of her words over you, and it may be helpful to simply acknowledge it.
I found it immensely helpful to name my emotions out loud. So you could say, "WW's text made me feel SCARED she is just waiting for me to reach out to fix this". That's the emotion, but that's not what's happening. Saying it helps you to see that.
How often do you have fur-baby swaps? Is there a way you can minimize these? Is there a schedule?
