Kristin ~ Sorry about that tough interaction. Great advice from IW about slowing down when you feel like you are spiraling.
You changed the terms of your relationship and she had a strong emotional reaction. This is normal. I look at these things in 2 ways:
1. She started throwing out emotional "bait" to try to get you back. First sadness, then anger. She'll keep tossing out bait until you bite.
2. She is going through her own strong emotional reaction. You can empathize with that, while also leaving her to tend to her own emotions.
Our WAS's know us better than anyone. They know what buttons to push, how to get us to respond, etc. Even if it is not malevolent, they know how to manipulate. They know how we will respond.
