Don’t be to hard on yourself. I like to use the Mike Tyson quote “ everyone has a plan until they get punched in the face”. You will learn and grow from this and be happy again. Be patient and kind to yourself.
Thanks LH19, I know I will be happy again. I will definitely be much happier than I have been for the past year. She has paid all the bills, most of the credit cards in her name, and the house is in both of our names. I've got to begin doing the little things.
Canceling joint cars, moving cash into the other bank account I created, and tell her what bills she needs to pay etc... We have tried to discuss this in the past but she gets ugly about it. She tries to tell me what I will pay and what she will pay. Sad thing is I probably would fair better off financially if I would go ahead and file myself. She doesn't want to use a lawyer. She said last night that she can file online for $135. LOL I told her that is fine but I would have my lawyer look it over and make changes. I guess she will end up being ugly through this due to the credit cards etc... I'm not sure I shouldn't let her live in the house and try to make the mortgage payment herself. I will struggle to make the payment by myself and pay other bills that I have.
