Thank you LH! I don't think I'd let myself get to the WS point on principle alone but I do wonder how I'll come out of this limbo. 3 months in, no end in sight.
All, something I saw either online or in the validation book I'm reading...its been huge for me the last two days.
Make sure you are validating your own feelings, not just others'. I had to talk to myself out loud to really feel it but it worked. Found myself ruminating over something passive aggressive W did and I knew I'd have it in my mind till I talked to someone about it. Then I asked myself what was wrong and told myself it was normal to feel the frustration and anger. There are many reasons why its ok, especially given the circumstances. Then I asked how I can continue forward.
I always heard to accept and not fight your feelings, I just didn't understand what it meant. I literally used to tell myself "I accept that I'm anxious". That did nothing to help!
Probably stuff I should've learned years ago but it worked several times already and I think its good practice for me to better learn to validate others. Hope this helps someone else as well.
Last edited by Core; 12/29/1903:49 AM.
H37, W37 D4, S2 ILYBNILWY 9/19 BD 9/19 EA discovered 10/19 Currently in limbo, no D or S process initiated
