"Walking out of the Valley" 2.0

[hoosjim]

First and foremost, keep referring back to the DBing books until you know them by heart. Also Sandi2's rules for interactions with WWs.

Second, and you may shake your head, here, but learn/read as much as you can about "male dominance" (no, not the BDSM stuff, but rather the stuff about being a dominant, alpha male. This is NOT a suggestion to be an arrogant jerk or an abuser of women, but, rather, a cool, confident, assertive (but not obnoxious) LEADER. You'll probably run across some dreck when you are googling this, so you'll have to use some judgment. Also, alot of the basic stuff from the "pick up " community incorporates similar thinking and can be adapted. And this is not about being phony or putting on a personal... Even the most shy introverted guy out there can benefit from conversational tools (eye contact, etc) and learn to enjoy the manly and subtle art of banter/flirting. It makes social engagements and even just being out WAY more fun... And I am not talking about womanizing or sleeping around alot, but rather the ability to enjoy fun, light conversation that will be enjoyable for you and for others and will result in people liking and remembering you. Also, if you come from a relationship or marriage that is challenged or has been challenged in terms of intimacy or a SSM, learning or relearning, "the art of touch with a woman" (and Google just that) can be very worthwhile. There is a natural, social progression to touch, the knowledge of which can be very helpful in re-establishing intimacy with a woman with whom you have lost it, or, alternately, establishing a new relationship with someone new, if your life heads in that direction. In the pickup community it is known as "kino" touch. studying this was invaluable to me as I was trying to re-establish intimacy with my wife.I had already looked it up and then reading on it some on my own, when I was surprised to find that my MC/IC (who is also a registered sex therapist... Did I mention that she may be the best MC/C ever? Lol) preached a similar progression. All these things like this will make you more attractive as a man, and will, in turn make you more confident, self-assured, and, at the end of the day, happy.

"The Married Man Sex Life Primer" is also a good resource that incorporate some of the stuff, and which I have seen others recommend on other threads here.the content is actually useful whether or not you were talking about your wife, or other women, or even just the way you comport yourself in general.

Generally speaking:. Confident, assertive, but without being a jerk, fun, mysterious, etc

One of the best tips from all of this stuff you will find is very similar 2 one of the underlying tenets of the DB method-- Pursuit and Distance. P&D works on many levels and across many different time frames. It can be useful in establishing and maintaining re-establishing a long-term relationship, we can also be useful in establishing initial interest over the course of just one evening with someone you have just met. Might sound crazy, but it definitely works.

At the end of the day, though, the best thing that you can do, are durable self improvement initiatives. fitness and Faith were my to bedrocks and probably did more for me than anything else.

Hope this is all helpful