I also want to steal this quote from HopeCA's thread, because I sometimes feel pressure from others (and maybe sometimes I imagine it) to give up, and I am just not there. My H is for the first time beginning to recognize his own patterns in IC—is he taking responsibility for them? No. He's in rebellion and running mode, and all resentment and anger appears to be directed toward me. That he's stuck with his C this long is a miracle. I bet she senses she has to go very, very slowly with him. I want to have faith that a higher power will help him. When I find myself spiraling, I try to instead redirect energy toward prayer.
Originally Posted by BluWave
I get this feeling when I read through your journal, that divorce for you is the end - that you need to get him to turn around before this happens - I might be wrong - but if not then I am curious.
Are there some religious reasons behind you seeing divorce being the final nail in the coffin? Divorce is just a piece of paper, and if you dont want to give up, then you shouldn't have to - divorce regardless. But you need to come from a place of strength, and with your many concerns regarding how your husband is feeling, and how he is thinking, you are most likely not coming from there.
Show him, that you are capable of a life without him, because you were before you met him, and certainly you will be again - you already are.
Live life how you want to - dig deep down and feel yourself - who are you, and what do you want - not what does HE want.
