When you say she is "staying with a friend out of town", I'm assuming you mean that she is or likely is seeing OM?
No she is with her best friend who has been through a similar situation. The OM I am assuming has his kids this weekend and that is why she wants to go out of town IMO. I appreciate your thoughts and I have a lot of respect for your advice. It doesn't give me a lot of hope other than I know I have to "let her go". I know she has become very involved as they spent everyday for nearly 10 hours out of the day together at her job during the summer. There were no kids at schools so they had free range. He was buying her lunch, decorating her classroom, and heck he even gave her the promotion she had been dreaming of for years
I can be happy on my own. I just really hate it for my son but she will have to see the demage eventually when he is having to be shared or custody issues. Our son can be difficult so in a way she may be fine with him living with me. Next year the plan was for him to be in high school where I am coaching. That would put him with me everyday for the next 4 years. She has mentioned in the past she gets lonely and she wouldn't have anyone once he come to school with me. Thanks again "hoojim" for your advice and stating it plainly for me to see that this process will take a long time. I do believe that separation will be the key.
If I had it to do over with again I probably would have kicked her out upon first discovery. That is putting her things in the garage and telling her to leave.
