a difference between my sitch and yours is that my H has/had a mountain of resentments and anger toward me for issues in our R.
My H is also excellent at compartmentalizing and has always said he copes by not thinking about things until he wants to. Sometimes it's hard to tease out the difference between the resentments he has that I need to own and the ones he's accumulated in other relationships/areas of his life and is now associating with me. Though there's not an OW as far as I know, it does seem he is experiencing a similar kind of validation and exhilaration in the new friends he's made: they get him, they appreciate him.
It sounds like maybe your H is starting to see, if not yet face, that all is not as he'd imagined it would be in his new life.
Originally Posted by HopeCA
I’m trying to think of authentic 180s I could make toward detachment, for my sitch and for me.
I wish I could offer you a suggestion here! This seems like it would be so much more complicated with children. I hope Blu and others have suggestions for you, as I'm thinking about this myself.
