Thanks everyone. Touch and goes prior to this were 2-3 days maximum. This one was almost a month long. When she talked of OM she began to name his faults so many of us pointed out up front, things she defended so strongly at first. It threw all of us for a loop. When we talked she was so clear about many things. I guess that's why a small part of me expected differently. She admits some fault, but cannot name specific examples. I owned up to things I did with examples and stated how I have changed. It was a way for me to get some closure. She has moved on in a "healthy and natural manner" and still throws some soft daggers my way that I ignore.
OM family was involved early on and helped them orchestrate secret meetings while we were married. They were all together for the holiday and it still burns me to this day. I have seen his family out a couple of times and W got mad when they told her I ignored them when they approached me. I am clueless as to why they would expect me to talk to them.
Yes, the crazy season has been over for a while. We have spoken more in the past few weeks than we have in the entire past year.I was going to send her a letter for closure but I feel like I said everything that needed to be said. I am glad the drama is over.....at least for now.
W is financially strained and the last property settlement payment was made. The first few months of the year will be tough and I expect another touch and go then, but will keep my guard up for that one.
