One year in...

[Jac12]

Merry Chritmas everyone...like most a bit of an interesting day yesterday.

Overall it was a success as my son had a great day.

My WAW stayed overnight at my place Christmas eve so we both could be with our son for a bit in the morning. I then went to my moms for our family celebration and she went to her moms.

Around 3:00 I went to go drop off my son at W's moms for their Christmas. I stayed for about 30 minutes and my W and I were talking for most of the time:

W: would you like to stay for a beer?
Me: No thanks, I won't be here too long.
(play with our son for a bit)
W: Would you like some food?
Me: No it's ok, saving room for the turkey.
Me: How are you doing today? Feeling ok? (1st Christmas without her father)
W: yeah I've had a couple cries and I'm sure some more when my brother gets here. I'm doing ok though."
W: Are you sure you don't want to stay?
Me: Yes, I should get going....but thank you for the invite.

I said bye to her family and she walked me to the door. She gives me a big hug and as I'm leaving she starts crying. Now...old me would have tried to comfort her and walked back in. This time though I just walked back, gave her a kiss on the cheek, and said bye.

I'm not reading too much into that exchange - it's happened before and it didn't change anything. I also am done trying to fix her and be her comfort blanket.