I am sorry. What a cruel way to have the rug pulled out from under you. I have some experience in that treatment.
Most WAS / MLCers are cruel to an extent. It helps justify what they are doing. And remember, they are doing it. Your W’s actions and behaviours are about her not you.
Her cleaning out the house and accounts demonstrates her intent, and highlights your pressing need. In all of this situation you have the healing side, your path and the business side, the allocation of assets and custody. Sorry for how cold that sounds, but that is the reality of it. The business side is just that - a business deal that went sideways. Keep emotions out of this side of things.
In most cases the advice is to let the spouse do the heavy lifting, and for you to not help or hinder. In this particular case I believe you need to protect you and your kids ASAP. See a lawyer. Get advice, and learn your rights. Information is power.
I agree with the others and encourage a sense of urgency to you. Please look into this - soon. You can then make an informed decision.
It looks like you have been speaking with a L. The lawyers barking at each other and custody issues, for example. If you have hired a lawyer, good for you. Pass the fight to him, your sanity is important. Your L works for you, let him. That’s just some encouragement; as it’s hard to let go of this and trust it to someone else. Don’t worry you always have the final say.
I am glad you are looking towards yourself and willing to heal. And yes keep praying, you will be surprised how those prayers are answered.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
