"Walking Out Of The Valley"

[hoosjim]

IMHO you shouldn't go play family with her at her folks' house. neither her parents nor your kids should have to ask why, since it sounds like everybody knows. If they do ask, you can give the truthful answer without feeling like you're doing anything wrong or giving anything up. You're already going to have Christmas with your kids elsewhere, so you don't need to go over there and subject yourself to that hurt, look weak in your boys' eyes, and give her the comfort of knowing that you're going to be at her beck and call whenever she wants to play like everything is okay with the family. She made this mess, and now she has to live in it. Part of that mess is a broken family. It [censored], but that's the way it is.

My advice here might be somewhat different if your kids didn't already know about the situation. Might, but then again I doubt it.I know at least one of your son's already knows, and they're probably both old enough to know what's going on. Let your wife explain her way out of it, or try to. You shouldn't be subjecting yourself to this.

I am sorry, BB, I know this is a crappy time to have to deal with this, but I really think you need to do this now, for yourself, but also for your kids, so that all you can start moving forward.

Stay strong, man... Praying for ya!