Dilly - thank you for the update. It should s like you are doing well, even if it's only 95% of the time. But honestly, even the most sorted people aren't happy 100% of the time, so you're probably doing better than OK.
That's great about the traveling. I have spent a lot of time in the last year travelling. It has been the making of me. I love my kids, I still love my H, but these are things I could never have done if we were still together. I've stood on top of Mt Blanc, sailed a boat on the Adriatic, visited Auschwitz, and mediated in the 2nd largest mosque in the world. I hope you find your travels as fulfilling as I have.