b-baller if there's anything that I've learned in the last year whether they are walk away or Wayward or quasi wayward. There are going to be different perceptions and different narratives for different reasons. It sounds like your W has a lot of resentment built up. I know it can be tough not to backhand yourself for the things that you do want to change and are guilty of, and how other things can be downright false accusatory, gaslighting and blame-shifting. But please remember that another person's improper rebellious actions shouldn't have any bearing on your self-worth try not to be too hard on yourself. Two wrongs don't make a right and poor decisions have consequences. Vapo is right you are dealing with an emotional and physical addict. people who Harbor resentments do so for a lot of different reasons. Either they don't feel safe and being vulnerable in communicating with you, or they are fed up and rebellious towards you and then want to keep everything a secret such as in your case. Sometimes it's caused by poor influences to such as friends or family.
You don't have to divorce just yet you should giveYou don't have to divorce just yet you should give them time and space as well as yourself time and space for self-discovery and growth. Maybe there might be remorse and repentance in the future maybe there won't be? It just depends on a person's will and circumstance. but yes let your actions speak much louder than words I would go no contact with her right away. Email Communications only do not answer texts or phone calls unless it's an emergency they will find a way to get in contact with you if it is. Get her out of the house and pack her Don't let the crocodile tears of the excuses of her parents and her father's decision dissuade you from doing so. He sounds like a good man that's on the moral High Ground. Consult a few lawyers and cancel all joint credit cards in yours in your W's name right away. She has broken the marriage contract. So there must be consequences for her actions there's no amount of justification for it. Secure yourself financially and legally as well as spiritually and emotionally and be there for your family and protect them. I know that I'm a hard-nosed person but when wrongful actions have been taken I emphasize that silence speaks volumes get comfortable with it
